Vulnerability

"SOS, please someone help me"... let us address the obvious today!
Whether it's obvious or not (apparently more often ;), let us bring to the forefront what a relationsugar really is. Guys are looking for companionship and sex, the ladies are looking to be taken care of financially in exchange for that affection. It is negligent and ignorant to assume otherwise.

Soooo, let me spell it out a little further. Women are vulnerable by design. And when a woman is looking for a sugar daddy it is because she is experiencing some financial vulnerability, too. And acknowledging that openly. She'll still be vulnerable if she doesn't have to stress about rent. She just won't be stressed anymore. And you get to enjoy that stress free version of this lovely little thing.

Whether she is a single mom, a student, a business owner or someone with a chronic illness (lots of them don't show on the surface so you can't make assumptions based on the cover of the book) she is openly admitting that she needs some help to get by. Therefore she has acknowledged her vulnerability and there is no need to make her prove it. I understand that you're just trying to gauge whether or not she would be open, receptive and vulnerable sexually but that will ONLY come about if you can meet her needs financially (assuming chemistry of course). Stress relief exchange. Exchange!!

Granted there are some women in this for the wrong reasons, IMHO, but who am I to say that a life of Louis Vitton and W Hotels is a bad thing in exchange for being pretty. But in reality, most of the women I have talked to regarding sugar life are genuinely kind, hard working women who're kinda fucked financially and just trying to get by in this crazy world we livin' in. Just like the men, only our needs are a little different.

But yes, she is "using" you for your money, just as you are "using" her because she has tittays. Sure, it's not all that glib, if you're not interested in each other fundamentally it will never get to the usership we've come here to engage in. But illusions that a relationsugar is anything more than a very clearly defined exchange are simply a waste of everyone's time.

Soooo, just like you're not entertaining women who are looking for a husband/baby daddy, don't be insulted when she doesn't want to entertain a man who can't meet her needs financially. Time is money, and wasting time chatting with a woman who wants to get married and babied up is not a good investment of your time if you're just looking for a booty call. So, why would a woman want to continue to "chat" if you're not in her budget range???? It's not personal, it's based on an honest awareness of one's needs. Which includes not having an abundance of time to waste ;)

And while it can be disturbing to address the reality that women are far more vulnerable to sexual exploit, it is crucial to be aware that there are Jeffrey Dahmers and Robert Picktons in this world. Ladies, YOU need to keep yourself safe. Not paranoid, simply aware. That you are a delicate little flower and need be handled with care at all times. Gentlemen, YOU need to be aware that she needs to feels safe, cuz she's a delicate little flower that needs to be handled with care at all times who wants to blossom.

It's just real, not anything to get overwhelmed about. Misogyny is rampant in our society. Relationsugaring addresses that imbalance by adding the levener* that actually enables a "mutually beneficial arrangement". We're here because we are doing things differently. Or maybe you're lost on the Internet ;P


*levener is a cooking term (but this is chemistry, too so it's apt ;) : substances used in doughs and batters that cause a foaming action which lightens and softens the finished product