Niche Dating

Sure, it could happen... but the woman looking for a baby daddy/husband is not hanging out at local pubs baring her tittays if she wants to find a serious sperm donor who is also committed to monogamy and procreation. IF she wants to be successful.

Is there anything wrong with wanting to build a family? Hell, no, if that's your deal. But you don't try to get with the "bad boys" if co-parenting is your intention, you go out with men who are into the family/kids scenario... Likewise, gay men don't go to straight bars (haha, ya right ;) and vanillas don't attend the bdsm soirees. An entirely roundabout way of saying that simply because we are in the same niche doesn't mean we are compatible.

The point of dating is to determine our compatibility. The only real difference is that in Sugar Land, the dating never ends. It's a perpetual honeymoon. Sweet!! Oh ya, that's why it's called Sugar Land :)

This is niche dating, nothing more or less. There is everything right with wanting or having a sugar mistress. It's no different than being in the meat market for a marriage or a booty call.

I'd bet two whole quarters that you didn't propose to your wife after the first or second date. But you knew you wanted to explore the idea of her and you more. Translation: You wanted her time (and attention). In Sexy Marriage Land that means you date and act like a guy she'd want to marry. In Sugar Land that means you present the budget and act like a guy she'll want to continue dating for years to come.

Whichever dating niche you're in, if you are conducting yourself with manners and civility, there may just be some of whatever you're after in store for you.